Children should be seen and not heard
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Children are expected to remain quiet and not interrupt adults. Now usually quoted critically, humorously, or as an example of authoritarian and gendered attitudes. Regional use: English proverb; historically British and later widespread.
Origin
A close ancestor appears in John Mirk's late fourteenth- or early fifteenth-century Festial as an old English saying: a maiden should be seen but not heard. Maiden in that setting points to a girl or young woman, not all children. The maxim was later generalized into the familiar rule for children. Its history therefore records both age hierarchy and gendered expectations; calling the medieval line an exact child-rearing proverb would erase that change.
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Variants
- Children are to be seen and not heard
Usage Examples
- His grandfather still believed that children should be seen and not heard.
- The school rejected the old idea that children are to be seen and not heard.
- At formal dinners, the rule seemed to be that children should be seen and not heard.