Spare the rod and spoil the child
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The traditional claim that a child will be badly formed without firm correction or discipline. Historically associated with corporal punishment and now controversial. Use descriptively or with clear context rather than as unqualified advice. Regional use: English biblical-proverbial tradition; now widely known.
Origin
The discipline idea echoes Proverbs 13:24 and medieval English parallels, but the modern proverb is not a Bible verse. Samuel Butler's Hudibras: The Second Part, published in 1664, has the near-exact 'Then Spare the Rod, and spill the Child'; spill carried the sense later supplied by spoil. Butler therefore provides an important ancestor, not the first occurrence of the exact modern wording. The substitution of spoil belongs to later usage.
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Variants
- Spare the rod, spoil the child
- Spare the rod and spill the child
- He that spareth his rod hateth his son
Usage Examples
- The headmaster quoted 'spare the rod and spoil the child', a doctrine the modern school firmly rejects.
- Her grandfather used the proverb to defend strict rules rather than physical punishment.
- Invoking spare the rod and spoil the child does not settle what effective discipline should mean.